I remember being in the band in high school, and though it may be hard to believe, I was undeniably A BAND NERD. I had played trumpet for three years in high school and even sported the latest large wire rimmed glasses that sealed the deal for me. Every year at the beginning of the year we would have chair tryouts. I had taken great PRIDE the year before of being 1st chair. There were solos, better parts and it was a prestigious thing in the band to be first chair. After chair tryouts we were all gathered around the director’s office as he was posting the official results. I looked at the wall and I – WAS – CRUSHED. 2nd chair. I had gotten dethroned by someone who was younger than me and for the next three months I begrudgingly took my seat. I was absolutely ticked and my EGO took a large hit.
Most of us have dealt with the most disgusting five letter word in the English language P-R-I-D-E. But how do we get over ourselves?
“When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” Proverbs 11:2
So what did I fail to do? I failed to realize that the band wasn’t about me. This should have been obvious. A band takes, well, multiple people playing multiple instruments to create the sound of a band. “The whole world is comprised of other people with one minor exception, that is you.”
4 Simple Ways To Get Over Yourself
1. Practice The Me Third Principle – The me third principle is rather simple, God first, others second and me third. If you want to see an example of humility, open the door for someone, let someone go in front of you and last but not least, choose to give someone else a better seat on your next flight. Choose the middle seat. If I could afford it, I would buy a first class seat then randomly choose someone on the plane to upgrade. Wouldn’t that be fun?
2. Give Generously – It’s hard to remain prideful when you give with no strings attached. The way to combat prideful giving is to give and ask for nothing in return. Tell NO ONE! Once you share it, immediately you will feel pride well up in you and you just wasted your money. Your humility was snatched up by your evil ego.
3. Laugh At Yourself Regularly – I often become the butt of my own jokes because I know I am a goof ball who has no business doing what I am doing. I have no business being married to my amazingly gorgeous, hot wife. I work with amazing people who for some reason choose to work for me. (By the way, you choose your boss). And I can be the quirkiest person around. STOP taking yourself so seriously, calm down, relax, and laugh at yourself.
4. Be Willing To Be Forgotten – This means in every instance pass along the credit. I believe we are the sum total of what people pour into us. Teachers, coaches, parents, brothers, classmates: There is no way I got here alone, and you didn’t either. I think what the world needs is more people with a sober view of themselves and their accomplishments.
One more thing, here is the warning: Once you think you are humble, you become prideful. Just because you do the above you won’t necessarily shake the “pride virus.” Humility takes a life-time of depending on Jesus and self managing.
You weren’t born as Superman, so get over yourself!
Question: What is the most difficult situation you have had to show humility in?
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