Title: Correction Needed

Scripture Read: Proverbs 25

Key Verse: “Like an earring of gold or an ornament of fine gold is a wise man’s rebuke to a listening ear.” Proverbs 25:12

Observations:

Rebuke is another word for correction.  When correction happens, the usual first response of the person taking correction is to refuse it.  It is very difficult to take correction.  Why?  Three simple words must be spoken in order to receive the correction.  I was wrong, or I am sorry.  Why is it we are so afraid of being wrong when people show up to help us with our blind spots?  I think it has to do with fear and insecurity.  But there is hope in one sentence above.  Our appearance becomes bolder, more respected, and valuable when we receive correction.  Fine gold is hard to find, it’s worth it, take the correction.

Applications:

One of the things that came to mind is, who then should I take rebuke from? Just anyone?  The answer to that is, well, yes, when I am wrong I am wrong.  But how do I know if the rebuke is wise?  Here are some simple things I have found about taking rebuke.  I will be willing to receive rebuke much better if the circumstances below accompany the rebuke:  So for those of you about ready to call someone on something they did to you or someone else, read below.

#1 If it is done with respect – No one likes a know it all, and no one wants someone who has it all figured out, but I want someone to correct me and treat me like a human who is human.  Sometimes, respect is shown through bold, gentle words that preface the conversation.

#2 When I sense they don’t want to go on – When I sense eagerness behind a rebuke, I get uncomfortable.  Like they were waiting to pounce on me.  But when I sense reluctance, it puts me at ease.  It should be just as uncomfortable for them as you.

#3 When I know they have my best interest in mind – Its hard to take correction and listen to those who we don’t think care about us.  Actually it might be counterproductive.  If I don’t believe that someone believes in me, then I perceive the purpose of the rebuke is so they can be right.  I won’t receive it well.

#4 When I already trust them emphatically and I know they would take the same rebuke from me – As you can see relationships are everything.  When I sense the person correcting me is standing on equal ground with me. (Meaning, there is mutuality in the relationship)  I will receive it much better.

Finally, I would suggest those you are closest to, you verbally give them permission to call you out on your sin and pride when they see it.

Prayer:

Lord, help me to be open to rebuke when I need it.  I pray those who you send to me would be gentle in spirit.  Help me to show respect to them at all times.

Burning Questions:

Who do you need to correct on something?  Who are some people you can ask to rebuke you when they think you need it?